MY Dopey!

In continuation with my previous entry and after re-reading the part about the union of 2 Water Signs in relationships, I realized that I haven’t given much credit to Ze Boyfriend in writing. I am sure he will blush in shame (or in anger, uh-oh!) if he knows that he is the topic of this entry, making him a “Bashful” instead of a “Dopey” as my college best friend refers to him.

Hmm, where to start? Let’s start with our very first chat. As you all know, a friend introduced us to each other when I was still working in the Philippine Canine Club. I was the creative head there and Ze Boyfriend was a Labrador breeder (1, 2, 3, awwwwwww!) Since he was living in Cagayan de Oro then, and I was in Manila, we delved into the wonderful web of chatting first. Early chats went like this:

BF: Hi, online ka? (are you online?)

Me: Malamang! (uh, not really!)

But that did not stop Mr. Lover Boy from being a real life Noah Calhoun from The Notebook to me.

So since Mr. Lover Boy was fortunate enough to be an EC Engineer and worked at the top telecom company in the Philippines, he resorted to non-stop mobile conversations and mushy but sweet e-mails on the side.

At first I thought he was nervous that’s why he was very conversant and doesn’t run out of stories about him and his life. Little did I know that he is really friendly and chatty in real life! I guess that’s just his way of opening up with me so I get to know him better. But aside from that, what struck me most about him was that he was very open and honest and straight-to-the-point. Our 10-year age difference must have made him ask me one question and one statement in one short sentence:

“I am courting you, now tell me, do I have a chance or are we wasting each other’s time?”

So when I said yes to the first option, he became everything I hoped for in a life partner, too good to be true but, in my heart and in spite of the protests from other people, I know he is The One.

In this day and age where temptations abound and marriage is but a piece of paper signed by two parties, I really feel very lucky to find someone who is able to respect a lifetime commitment and someone who accepts me for who I am, the good and the bad. Similarly, I was also able to find in him, someone I could love and accept for he who he was, for what he has become and for who he can still be. And the surprising thing is that this Dopey keeps on giving me reasons every day to love him even more!

Yes, he has changed a lot since we first met, he was good enough already then, and now, he has become a better man. From being honest, he became more loyal. From being friendly, he became more compassionate. From being slow to anger, he became more understanding. From being a giver, he became selfless. From being just a dream for me, he became a reality.

He is my pillar of strength, my happy pill, confidence-booster, confidante, emotional punching bag, adviser and most of all, my family and my best friend ever! I believe these two branches of flowing water finally found their way to flow together in one course. And after 4 years and counting, I firmly believe that we will grow old and grow better together.

Noah: I am no one special. Just a common man with common thoughts. I've led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten, but in one respect I've succeeded as gloriously as anyone who ever lived. I've loved another with all my heart and soul and for me that has always been enough.